Consent and Helping Women Feel Safe

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Mutual consent is one of the most important elements in any healthy relationship. Consent means that a person freely agrees to any sexual activity and does so without coercion of any kind. If a person feels intimidated or threatened physically, emotionally, financially, or in any other way, that person cannot offer consent.

To help a woman feel that her consent is important and appreciated, a man should go into all sexual situations knowing that the woman needs to specifically consent to that particular event. Previous consent does not ensure present assent, even if a relationship is in place. A man must request consent and must receive a positive and unwavering response, as a lack of confidence to say “no” does not translate to “yes.”

Men do not have to feel awkward when asking for consent. Phrases like “Is this ok?” and “Do you want to keep going?” are possible even when the moment is becoming heated. That way, the man can be sure that the woman is okay with what is happening.

Finally, a man should also look out for whether the woman is under the influence of a substance and avoid asking for consent in those moments. Someone who is inebriated, or otherwise incapacitated, cannot fully agree to a sexual act. By respecting the vulnerability of a woman in such a situation, a man can communicate that he respects her overall well-being and is concerned with her comfort.